Monday, February 22, 2010

Ceremony: Not in a Church…Say What?!

since i can remember, i really envisioned my wedding in a church sanctuary -- classic and traditional, yanno? but I swear this was before I realized all the roadblocks that come when your church isn’t in a traditional church building per se, and you would like to utilize a church that you aren’t a “member” of. ::BIG sigh:: it’s NOT an easy feat AT all! one of my very first tasks post engagement, was looking for a church with “welcoming arms” ughhhhhhhhhhh. don’t get me wrong, many are welcoming, but there are gobs and gobs of rules and regulations.


1. No flash photography

2. No photography during the ceremony

3. No videography unless from the balcony

4. No flowers or decorations with tape, tacks or staples

5. No candles

6. Only real flowers (fine by me)

7. No fake flower petals down the aisle

8. No aisle runner

9. No parking lot (hunh?)

10. You can ONLY use our pastor…maybe your pastor can perform the ring ceremony (hunh?)

11. No recorded music

12. You MUST use our wedding coordinator

13. No center aisle

14. You MUST use our organist

the list goes on and on and on. note that the above is a combination of rules listed by the several churches we have looked into. i’m just over it. why should we have to compromise? we want a center aisle, the ability to use our own officiant (who IS ordained), and get video/photo coverage. period. apparently it isn’t that simple. this leads to the path we are now considering: getting married somewhere other than a church! lol yes, I know, people do it alllllllllll the time. but I really wanted a church :-/ some think it LUDICROUS to even consider the thought. But c’mon folks let’s be real…will our marriage be any less ordained by God if it isn’t performed in a church? will it be destined for failure? i think NOT.

what’s the real dealio? does it really matter where we get married???? so long as we are joined as man and wife…. #imjustsaying…. what say ye?

Toodles my loves!

here's an image i stole of Peachtree Road UMC here in Atl. one word: gorgeous....
 
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  1. AnonymousFebruary 22, 2010 at 3:55 PM

    I totally understand wanting what you want but not being able to get it like you want it. But hey, we don't go to church in a "church" so it doesn't sound ludicrous at all.

    Keep the blog post coming. Planning my wedding was so much fun (venue was the hardest part)so I love reading about other people planning theirs!

    Happy Planning,
    Jasmine Hardaway

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  2. Tiffany L.February 22, 2010 at 4:05 PM

    lol Thanks Jasmine!..pls note that Brown Middle School is still a consideration (especailly with that center aisle!) lolol

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  3. IsaFebruary 22, 2010 at 4:14 PM

    God is everywhere - His presence isn't constrained to churches. Like Jasmine said, we don't go to church in a "church" soooo...lol!! That being said, you have to decide what's more important to you - getting married in a church like you always imagined (which is clearly a beautiful image to have) or making your own rules for photography, videography, decorations, etc, etc. Either way, I'm sure God will show up and the wedding and memories will be beautiful :).

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  4. Tiffany L.February 22, 2010 at 4:20 PM

    Thank you Isa :)

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